About this tool
Ten questions about self-talk, rest, boundaries and celebration show how you treat yourself day to day. The result is meant to offer encouragement and a tiny first step, not judgement.
Tips for getting the most from it
- Notice your lowest-scoring question and pick one tiny action.
- Retake after a month.
- Share your result with a friend and ask for their view.
Frequently asked questions
Is self-love selfish?
No. Treating yourself with care generally makes it easier to care for others.
What if my score is very low?
Be gentle. Many people were never taught self-compassion. Small steps and support from a counsellor can help.
This tool is for reflection and self-awareness, not diagnosis or treatment. If you are struggling, please speak with a doctor or counsellor. If you are in crisis, contact your local emergency number or a crisis line (US: call or text 988; elsewhere: findahelpline.com).
Keep reading
Our guide How to Practise Self-Love Without It Feeling Fake goes deeper: Realistic, small ways to build a kinder relationship with yourself, especially after a hard period.