About this tool
Enter the date the relationship ended and see how much time has passed in days, weeks, months and years, with a short message that fits where you are. Seeing the distance in numbers can help you notice how much you have carried and survived.
Tips for getting the most from it
- Use the calculator on dates that feel heavy, such as anniversaries.
- Write down one thing that is different now compared with day one.
- Remember the number is just time, not a measure of how you should feel.
Frequently asked questions
Why do anniversaries feel so hard?
Dates carry memory. Your mind and body often remember them even when you are not thinking about them. It is normal for these days to feel heavier.
Is my date stored?
No. The calculation is done instantly in your browser and nothing is saved.
This tool is for reflection and self-awareness, not diagnosis or treatment. If you are struggling, please speak with a doctor or counsellor. If you are in crisis, contact your local emergency number or a crisis line (US: call or text 988; elsewhere: findahelpline.com).
Keep reading
Our guide Anniversaries and Hard Dates: Getting Through Them After a Loss goes deeper: Why certain dates hurt more, how to plan ahead, and gentle rituals for birthdays, anniversaries and holidays after a breakup.